Tis the Season, But what’s your Reason?

I love everything that Christmas truly stands for. Christmas is the celebration of the birth of our savior. It is about Him, all He has done for us and continues to do for us. He is not only the reason for the season, He is the reason for existing. Unfortunately in this day and age it seems that some are trying to turn this significant celebration of the birth of Christ into a commercialized, material-driven “Holiday”. Jesus was not sent to us in the form of man in order to save us from our sin just so that 2,000 years later our trees could be jam packed with presents.

 

A Picture Is Worth 1000 Words

A Picture Is Worth 1000 Words

I see people left and right getting into piles of debt just so that they can keep up with materialistic expectations that our kids have. What makes it worse is that they are learning these ways from us! I am not saying that gifts are bad and we should not buy anything for our kids at all. What I am trying to say is let’s start digging deeper into the true meaning of why we celebrate and let that pour over into our kids. We need to show our kids that even if we didn’t have a cent to buy them any toys we should be filled with joy because our savior is enough. Through His example we can show them ways to be kind to others in love and everything else Jesus Christ encompasses, in various ways, and not only during Christmas.

"The Best Things In Life Are Not Things."

“The Best Things In Life Are Not Things.”

 

Meet Janessa!! I said Cheese and I am guessing she thought she was going to eat cheese because she began praying.

Meet Janessa!! I said Cheese and I am guessing she thought she was going to eat cheese because she began praying.

My daughter is a bit over 2 years old but she is already so smart and absorbs information all around her. The things she remembers and knows astonishes me on a daily basis.

I want to start a tradition with her this year. I plan on having a present for Jesus Christ for His birthday so that I can explain to her why we are celebrating. My idea is to find a manger or have one made (my cousin works wonders with wood), have it wrapped so when she opens it she can see the scene of His birth. Then I will read to her the story of how our savior came to this world and as she is listening I will show her each and every person in the nativity scene so she can visually comprehend as well.

 

Be Intentional!

Be Intentional!

I believe we must be intentional when we are showing our kids who God is and why He so mercifully and graciously sent us a savior when we were least deserving. I want this tradition to carry out threw our lives and fill our years with joy. Perhaps Janessa will want to do the same when she has a child of her own one day. (One day far, far away lol)

I encourage you all, if you haven’t already, to start traditions with your families that encompass the values and beliefs that matter the most in this world. If you have a tradition like this or any other I would love to hear all about them. I pray you all have a wonderful and Merry Christmas this year enjoying what truly matters. God bless my brothers and sisters.

Sincerely,

4rm Party Girl To Praying Woman

Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” ~ Hebrews 13:5

And he said to them, “Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.” ~Luke 12:15

God: A defense against defense mechanisms.

Anger and sarcasm have been my defense mechanisms since childhood. I wasn’t the most popular kid growing up whether I was being picked on because I came from a poor family who couldn’t afford the latest trends or because I was one of the lightest skinned kids in a predominately Hispanic school. You name it, I was probably teased about it. But as the years passed by I learned that I had a wit about me and I could tango with the best of them. When these kids picked on me it was all too easy to tear them down a notch as they have been doing to me. The temporary satisfaction of getting even only led me to believe that this is what I should have been doing all along. Defend myself at all costs, that’s what the world teaches us, right? Wrong. Had I known then that it never mattered what these kids thought of me, it only matters what God thinks of me, perhaps my anger and especially my attitude would not be such a battle I face so often today in my adulthood.

Anger in itself is not a sin; Actions carried out in Anger can be.

Anger in itself is not a sin;
Actions carried out in Anger can be.

There are days where my anger wins the battle and I walk away feeling defeated by my own actions but then there are days filled with glorious victories that eclipse whatever win the devil thought he had over me. On those days I realize how truly far God has brought me. He is my great defender and will right any wrong done against me. And furthermore that in the face of a trial a lesson can always be learned.

God can transform the most stubborn of hearts out there and use them for good just like He did with Paul(Saul). God has promised to finish the work He has begun in us and there isn’t a shadow of a doubt in my mind that it will be done. Piece by piece we will be chipped away until that precious day we are called up and will be made perfect like our savior Jesus Christ. I pray that each of us can extend grace especially to those we feel do not deserve it. I lift all those who are struggling with these same anger issues as me. May we be lifted up to the Lord so that He may remove every stem of bitterness and resentment in our hearts. Help us to forgive, let go and not sin in anger. In the precious name of Jesus Christ I pray this over every person who reads this message. Amen. God bless you all my brothers and sisters.

Sincerely,

4rm Partygirl to Praying Woman

 

A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. ~Proverbs 29:11

A Slice of the Pie Can Feed Many

We could all use more slices of humble pie throughout our day. When you’re passionate about God’s word to the point where you cannot go a day without telling someone about Jesus something inside of you makes you never want to stop. And that’s more than great, it’s amazing. The Holy Spirit works wonders this way.

Such humility is the beautiful smile on the face of God

Such humility is the beautiful smile on the face of God

I pray we continue to show love and kindness when spreading God’s word. There are some that will be offended no matter how much love we tell the truth with and only God can change a hardened or shallow heart so let’s not take their offense personal. Rather truly pray for them because it is God they are truly attacking whether they know it or not. And Lord have mercy on a soul that picks a fight against the very creator of all the universe. God bless my brothers and sisters.

Sincerely,

4rm Party Girl to Praying Woman


Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. Philippians 2:5-11

Can we earn Grace?

Grace is a gift from God that we can never earn.

This past weekend I had a girlfriend meet me at my house so we could go out for the day and enjoy some much needed girl time. As women we know our everyday busy lives can definitely make one grow weary. It’s so refreshing to step away from the day to day needs by hanging out with friends with similar demands and let go for a few hours to just enjoy each other’s company. So my friend came over and I met her and our other friend at the door with my then almost 2 year old Janessa.

It Ain't Easy Being Cheesy...(Yup, I Totally Went There!)

It Ain’t Easy Being Cheesy…(Yup, I Totally Went There!)

Janessa had just stuffed her face with cheetos right before I heard the doorbell. So here I am at the door with a cheese covered two-year old standing right next to me. The ladies come in and the first thing my daughter does is raise her hands as high as possible to one of my friends with a huge smile on her face. She motions her hands to be picked up. My friend being the loving, motherly woman she is could not resist such an invitation and I am sure you can guess what happened next. By the time my daughter left her arms there were cheese trails all over the front of my friends white shirt. As my friend was trying to rub away the orange cheese I apologized over and over but she smiled my sorry’s away which left me relieved. What she said next however, really gave me an “oh wow” moment.

jesus loves you

She realized that she was willing to pick up a really dirty toddler no matter the mess because she really loved her. She told me if anyone in public asked her where the mess came from she would answer, “Janessa loved on me!” Then she told me it reminded her of God’s love towards herself. When she came to God she was dirty, filthy and full of sin and here was God with His pure white garments. God saw her looking up as dirty as can be with a big smile and raised hands out reaching for HIM to grab her. She motioned out for him to pick her up and HE couldn’t resist but to reach back.

God loves each one of us and asks that we come to him sins and all. HE tells us to come as we are because no matter what we may have done in the past God is the God of love, forgiveness and mercy. HE sent His ONE AND ONLY son to die so that we can live. This means that when we accept Jesus, who paid the ultimate price for our debt, we too can be cloth in pure white garments as our Father in heaven. He will wipe the slate clean on the dirtiest stains of your past. Paul said I am the worst sinner there is yet God saved him so that we may know that no sin in comparison could ever be beyond the reach of God’s grace. We do not deserve grace but that is what’s so beautiful about God’s love and mercy. Grace is a gift that we can never earn but is given to us through faith in Jesus. What a beautiful “Oh wow” moment this was.

Sincerely,
4rm Partygirl to Praying Woman

 

Ephesians 2:4-5
But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ, even when we were dead in sin, it is by grace you have been saved.

 

Forgiveness through Faith can Save Marriages!

Forgiveness

I’ve dealt with a lot of forgiveness issues from my past and present as I’m sure many you have. Whether I am having trouble forgiving myself, a stranger or someone close to me one thing remains the same. I am a prisoner of my own lack of forgiveness. As some of you following my blog may know I’ve had a few marital problems and they mostly stem from lack of forgiveness. I can also safely say I haven’t taken a lot of responsibility for my part in what I like to refer to as what seemed to be a smorgasbord of problems between the two of us.

Through my ongoing study of God’s word, other blogs involving Christian wives and their roles, for example “Unveiled Wife” which I definitely recommend, and related articles I have realized something. What looked to be the downfall of my marriage actually is turning out to be what is saving not only my marriage itself but restoring a very broken relationship my husband and I had with our Savior!

Let me explain. When my husband and I entered our marriage we were completely oblivious to the roles our Father had set forth for us thousands of years ago. Needless to say we were trying to build our foundation on sand and it was not long before we began to crumble. We were sliding down that very slippery path of destruction that leads to the dead end of marriage called divorce. I lost almost all hope and in my mind there was no going back. I had held on to so much hurt and score keeping that I didn’t know which way was up. Yet there on my path lied such a battle of conflict.

On my path there were all these voices telling me that I didn’t deserve this pain, I was an independent woman, and that I was still young so I could move on easily. Voices telling me that if I forgave for whatever wrongdoing that I felt had been done against me then I was somehow admitting defeat. My anger was consuming me. I was letting this anger control me so that I wouldn’t forgive. I didn’t want to forgive. I had a choice to make. I finally started asking for God to softened my heart because I knew my heart had grew so cold.

All these confusing voices in my head were not coming from the Lord. God is not the author of confusion and we need to let that sink in our brains and let God take over. As my Pastor said best, “Our newness in Christ should begin and take place in our homes first!”

So I prayed and prayed and God gave me an entirely new path. This path is paved with beautiful, unconditional, forgiving love that only God himself can show us. I had been holding on to grudges yet rejoicing in all the forgiveness my Lord could give me the instant I accepted HIM as my Lord and Savior.

To Forgive The Undeserving Is To Show Grace…

I had been told by many to pray for the ones who hurt me as well as myself. So I prayed. I prayed for his heart and I prayed for my heart and I strived for sincerity. It did not happen in my timing but in HIS timing I finally saw hope entering back into my mind and heart.

Slowly my anger melted away like snow melting off the sun kissed pedals of a flower on the first day of Spring. God loves marriage. He does not want to see his children divorcing. Where there is a will, there is a way and if you don’t have that will pray for the Lord to restore that will in you. I am here telling you that I’ve seen the brink of divorce but it doesn’t have to end there!

Do you remember when you were on fire for the Lord? You went shouting on every mountain top that you love Jesus and you’re not ashamed to tell it to anyone willing to hear you. Then maybe after a few months or years your fire starts to dwindle down. You may still go to Church but you just don’t witness like you use to or feel the Holy Spirit every time you pray. Same things happen to people who are married. The love is new and exciting in the beginning but may become comfortable or casual after a while.

If that sounds like you then I encourage you to re-evaluate your relationship with your savior and see what you can do to improve your servant’s heart for the Lord every day. We should strive to implement this intentional behavior in our marriages as well. If we cannot stay committed to someone we can touch, feel, see and love physically as well as benefit from physically than how is the Lord to trust that we can stay committed to our relationship with him? This is why I believe the Lord holds marriage so close to HIS heart.

Pray daily my friends and seek Christian counseling from older married members of your church, your pastor, and most importantly your bible! React in love, patience and forgiveness. If you or your spouse are full of anger look to your Word. Do what the word asks and pray every day for God to guide you through. Remember faith as small as a mustard can move mountains! My husband and I are moving our mountain together by the grace of God. You can too!

Sincerely,
4rm Partygirl to Praying Woman

Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. ~Ephesians 4:32

 

God is Love

god is love                                                                                                             God IS Love

God, my Lord and savior is many great things. He is known as the Holy Spirit, God of Angel Armies, Prince of Peace, Alpha & Omega, The Great I Am, and so much more that the list can go on and on. As I began this journey after God’s heart I soon realized all that He truly is. One of the many great things God is, is love. God is Love! He is the one true definition of the word. In the book of Corinthians it speaks about love. “Love is patient and kind, love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away, as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

This to me speaks volumes on my generation and where I personally have been in my life before. I know now I’ve never truly loved because how could I love myself or another when I go against the very true essence of love defined by the word? I truly believe we cannot learn to love ourselves or anyone else until we can know and love God. God is all of these things. He is kind and patient and wishes no harm to us. He gave us life and free will even though HE is all knowing. He knows the evil that lies in each and every one of our hearts yet He loves us anyway because we are HIS children.

If you have a child I can explain it to you this way. You will always love your child because you gave them life and it is a natural instinct. They may disappoint you or get involved with horrible things which cause you to step back but your love for them will always exist and you will always hope for them to come back to you and do the right things in their lives. Well imagine that love and multiply it by infinity because God loves us more than we can even fathom. He is our Father whom we should strive to always please. If you feel like God has never done one thing great in your life or he has never favored you, remind yourself that HE gave you life!

In Romans 12:19-21 Paul talks about not taking revenge or feeding into your Wrath because the Lord’s wrath is sufficient. Make no mistake about our Lord. He IS love but HIS wrath is very real as well. If someone was messing with your child would you not feel some type of anger or a need to protect your child against harm? He feels this way towards us. We belong to him and he watches over us. He doesn’t want us to take any steps towards vengeance because we are all born sinners and even our judgement against wrong doing can be misplaced. God can see one’s heart when all we can see is the outside.

What If This Was Everyone's Motto?!

What If This Was Everyone’s Motto?!

To judge another for a sin they may have committed to you chances are you have probably done the same or are capable of doing it in the future is misplaced judgment. I find that some of the things that offend us or upset us the most are some of the very same things we ourselves are guilty of. How weird is that?

JudgeNot

Love This Quote From Spiritually Thinking BlogSpot

 

 When we judge others we have no room to love them. Instead of judging each other we can speak truth in love according to God’s word. I am convinced that even righteous judgement should be treaded very lightly. We all fall short of perfection and is why our need for our savior becomes vital. Self-righteousness is all too easily found in the human psyche. I am still learning in my walk to keep true judgement up to God because if I am too busy judging what someone is or isn’t doing correctly where is the time to love them and point them back to God?

God doesn’t hold ANY sin higher than another. To Him it is all sin and HE is holy. Where there is holiness, sin cannot be. That is why when you live in sin the presence of the Holy Spirit dwindles. We do not know the intentions of other’s hearts but God does and if the true intentions are evil they will have HIM to answer to and may He have mercy on their souls. God bless you all my brothers and sisters and I pray this post encourages you all to love God’s way.

Sincerely,
4rm Partygirl to Praying Woman

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

Romans 12:19-21

Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Romans 3:23

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,

Isaiah 13:9

Behold, the day of the Lord comes, cruel, with wrath and fierce anger, to make the land a desolation and to destroy its sinners from it.

Romans 12:9

Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.

We are a NEW Creation in Jesus Christ!

new_creation

Let’s stop and think for one moment. Does our past define us? Must we wear our past as if it were our clothing to follow us on our back everywhere we go? Better yet, based on the mistakes, trials and tribulations of our pasts, that’s what makes us who we will always be, right? The simple answer is NO! These are lies that the Devil wants you to believe. To stop you from doing better and believing you can be better. When you accept Jesus Christ as your savior you become a new creation. We go through this life as caterpillars until that moment when we truly accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior in which we blossom into the beautiful butterflies that the Lord always meant for us to be, following humbly without question, truly in faith. Without Jesus Christ there would be no forgiveness for our sins. All would be damned because no one on this Earth can or ever will be without sin. God knew man’s heart was full of sin so he sent his ONLY begotten son, who in his flesh was more perfect and without any sin than the most righteous human being walking this planet today.

God’s blessing of favor in our lives is not based on our background, what side of the tracks we grew up on or the mistakes that we have made. God promises favor to every believer from HIS word and all you have to do is receive. HIS perfect love gave us the free will to choose faith and by faith alone to serve him. It is one thing to see with our own eyes but quite another to believe by faith and that is why we are given mercy by God. He knows we will never measure up to his perfect grace but by the blood of Jesus we have been saved! Some of you may be thinking but how could God ever forgive me for what I’ve done? You may think the mistakes of your past are unforgiveable but they are not. You’ve already been forgiven but you must accept him and praise him in everything you do. All God ever wanted was our love and as our creator he deserves everything we have to give plus more.

We must develop personal relationships with our savior. There are no amounts of Hail Mary’s or good deeds that you can do that will secure your place in Heaven. It should not be out of fear of hell that we choose to glorify God but out of our want and love for him. He is our father. Without God your mother’s, mother’s, mother’s, mother’s, mother’s, great ancestor would not even be here and yet so many of us go days, months, years even our whole life without gratitude for the one and only responsible for our being. You can have a positive attitude all the way to hell. Good intentions mean nothing without HIM.

We are all born sinners. I was a sinner on the daily basis. From my childhood days questioning everything about God from his existence to HIS word, to my young adult life fool of drugs, partying, men, lies, alcohol, etc. You name it and I probably did it or new someone in my life who did it. You could say I was a very godless woman. It took a long road to get to where I am now with my relationship with Jesus. By no means am I perfect or think I ever will be. I still get angry and impatient with people. I speak out of turn and have a lot of resentment and anger towards some. These are my battles and I pray every day that by the Grace of God I can learn to be slow to anger and quick to patience with others as I know the Lord is with me. People from your past may continue to bring up your past mistakes regardless of who you are trying to be and the relationship you are trying to develop with God. Pay no mind. The devil is a liar and he will use people who are close to you to try and remind you of who you USE to be so as to distract you from trying to do better. Simply smile to those who bring up your past mistakes and say thank you for reminding me of who I use to be and who I am not anymore. We are all God’s children. He doesn’t love any one of us more than another. We are all equal to him regardless of our past mistakes. Ask for forgiveness and truly try with every fiber of your being to mirror God’s image and you will never lose God’s love. All he asks is that we try and continue to glorify and love our creator. I pray for my mess to be your message. God loved us first and HE deserves our best.

Sincerely,
4rm Partygirl to Praying Woman

 

2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

Philippians 2:12-15 ESV

Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure. Do all things without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.