Defeat The Self-Serving Attitude

The Servant King Sets The Example

The Servant King Sets The Example

Jesus wants us to let go of our self-serving ways and serve others. Often times so many of our relationships and friendships end because we count all the ways someone has not met our expectations or what we wished they had done differently FOR us. What we don’t see is perhaps the other side of things.

There is ALWAYS 3 Sides

There is ALWAYS 3 Sides

When disagreements come about we can pretty much bank on the fact that each party involved feels let down in one way or another BY the other. What would happen if on a moment to moment basis we took offense and even contempt out of the equation and instead replaced those feelings with servitude and humility? Truly serving our loved ones & enemies in ways we would love to be treated ourselves. We can also take this a step further and treat them better than we would treat ourselves. As the word of God says, “No greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13) Jesus Christ did this for us.

In John 15, Jesus washed His disciples’ feet.

In John 15, Jesus washed His disciples’ feet.

Jesus is King of Kings yet He came to serve us so that we may learn by His example. He served to the point of giving His life as ransom for many. This is so easy to write yet I must admit I have not served those around me well. So many times I chose to worry more about what was important to me, justifying my actions, rather than putting myself in the other person’s shoes to see what mattered most to them. If we’re honest with ourselves, how many of us can truly call ourselves servants of Christ? Our we striving to serve all those around us as Jesus Christ himself would have?

A dear friend shared this tidbit with me. Imagine a scenario where any of these thoughts pop into your head: “I really wish he cooked me my favorite meal!” or “I would really love it if my coworker could help me complete my tasks when they are not as busy.” When these thoughts pop up they are an opportunity for you to rise and serve them in these very same ways you desire to be served. Think about your thoughts and evaluate your side. Are you doing any of those things for your spouse, for your friend, for your co-worker? Maybe you are and that’s great, but are you doing them with expectations to recieve the same in return? What if we served others for the sheer enjoyment of serving them in love? This is what I believe it means to serve like Christ, in love, without expecting anything back.



4rm Party Girl To Praying Woman

“For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.” ~Galatians 5:13 

 “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” ~Colossians 3:23-24

“And he sat down and called the twelve. And he said to them, “If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.” ~Mark 9:35 

31 thoughts on “Defeat The Self-Serving Attitude

  1. I love that second quote and it’s one that I’ve heard over and over from my own mom. While I would love to be like Jesus, I’m not perfect but I do try.

    • Yes that quote really hits home doesn’t it? The only perfect one to walk this earth is Jesus. Don’t worry yourself about perfection because there is no such thing for us. Instead focus on progress. You’re willingness to follow Jesus Christ’ example is beautiful so no matter how much you stumble never lose that longing to be like Him. You will be blessed because of it. God bless sister.

    • In many situations yes. But I have had many instances lately where God is calling me to serve even when there is only take. The blessing comes from knowing whom I do it for. Thank you for stopping by and sharing. God bless. 🙂

  2. I love that quote about there being 3 sides to every story! I have never thought about it that way and if I do, it will probably change a lot of arguments and problems that arise! Thanks for sharing!

    • I felt the same way when I first stumbled across this quote. Def. a perspective changer that’s for sure. Thank you for stopping by. God bless you. 🙂

    • I understand where you’re coming from. I don’t want to be anyone’s doormat but I can only be responsible for my actions. I want to learn how to serve not only those who show me love but don’t who show hate and distain. I say this becuase God’s word says, it is easy to love those who love you, but to show love to your enemies now there is where the challenge lies. Jesus served the unloveable at the expense of His own life in the end but He showed us unconditional love when He did this. I know sometimes the world won’t understand and sometimes I don’t understand but love conquers all and a kind tongue can turn away wrath. By no means have I mastered any of this but Jesus did and I want to keep trying. Thank you so much for sharing. I appreciate your thoughts on the subject! God bless. 🙂

    • I do too! I have always heard the part about the 3 sides but never the conclusion that memories serve each differently. It’s a thought provoking, game changer for sure. Thank you for stopping by. God bless.

  3. Love this post. This subject always convicts me. I long for that true servant’s heart…yet I keep getting in my way! We’ve been shown a lot of compassion lately due to a personal tragedy, and it makes me want to do the same for others. It makes such a difference!

    • I am the same way. This a subject has convicted me to the point of tears. I call myself Christ’ servant but there are times when I feel very far from the title. However, it does remind me that I cannot lean on my own strength and that God is actually made strong in my weaknesses. So when the Holy Spirit convicts me and I serve my brothers and sisters better all glory goes to God. It is when He helps me back up to understand these things that I feel Him so near and dear to my heart. Progress is attainable while perfection is such a distraction from reality. I pray God continues to guide you and your family through this time. Thank you so much for sharing on this subject and for stopping by. God bless sister! 🙂

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